There is a time to move on
Those who know (or read back this blog) will recognise that things haven't been as easy for me as they might have been and just last week I was pleased to be offered a new position in another centre. There comes a point in situations when you have done all that can be reasonably expected to alter the situation and eventually the time is right simply to accept the way things are and move on. Unfortunately I think that time to move was three years ago but I am excited now about possibilities and adventures and hope for the future.
Carol 1
Numbers Don't Lie- The Mynabirds
Lesson 2
There really is more to life than work.
How many times have you heard that and thought, yes, I really should do something about it? Well, why not now just recognise that and go out there and enjoy yourself! There's so much fun to be had and whilst you may think that the place can't or won't cope without you, actually, it would work better if you had a wee bit of a rest at times and kicked back and did whatever you fancied for a while. You'll then come back envigorated and happy.
Carol 2
Hotel Lights- Amy Cook
Lesson 3
Tell your friends how much they mean to you, now.
One of the major sadnesses of moving jobs is all the lovely people you leave behind. And sadly, it is only when they find they are leaving that they actually express how much they care for you. I remember the sadness at a friend's untimely death and the love shared at his funeral and it made me realise that we should value our friends and tell them whilst we still have them, not wait 'til we lose them. So to those of you who consider yourselves my friends, thank you, you mean more to me than you know.
Carol 3
I Walked- Sufjan Stevens
Lesson 4
Ostritches don't bury their heads in the sand.
The tv program QI has a lot to answer for not the least teaching me that, contrary to commonly held belief, ostritches do not bury their head in the sand when frightened. Similarly, as a method of conflict management, this doesn't work. My work situation is complex but one of the main issues is that as a team we are completely dysfunctional and the failure of the greater system to address and adequately address this problem has been part of the reason it has persisted. The reason ostritches don't bury ther heads is that it doesn't work.
Carol 4
If You Wanna- The Vaccines
Lesson 5
The sky is an amazing place. Lie on your back and have a look sometime.
One of my special family memories is the whole load of us laid in the road outside our house looking into the night sky waiting on the Leonid (meteor) Shower. The kids were cynical and bored after about ten minutes and then suddenly "WOW!!!! Look at that!" as a star streaked across the sky. Sometimes we think we are the centre of it all and really important. Take a look at the sky sometime, just look and be amazed.
Carol 5
Zorbing- Stornoway
Lesson 6
Get fit. You'll feel so much better.
Over the last year I have set and achieved some sporting goals. Nothing huge and nothing you couldn't do but training for it and achieving it has made a huge difference to my life without it being a huge burden to do so. And I feel so much better about everything. It gave me space to think, an outlet for some of my stresses and rewards in fitness, weight loss and goals achieved. It needed be the Marathon de Sable but just a little 5k run or a triathlon or a bike ride for charity. Go on, you know you want to, what more encouragement do you need?
Carol 6
Zebra- Beach House
Lesson 7
One of the main reasons clinicians are difficult to manage is that they love their job.
Writing my research thesis and the day before my submission date I had a moment of clarity when it all suddenly appeared clear (to me). My analogy of the engagement of clinicians and their job is that clinicians are in love with their job, that their love relationship with individual patients or groups or patients is what drives them and also gives them their reward. This analogy allows me to understand why clinicians are so averse to taking instruction on how they should run their relationship (even if a correct change is suggested), why they will go the extra mile for their relationship, why they put up with crazy bad situations and put in the effort they do, that actually it is not about the pay or the kudos or the position but actually about their love relationship. And that trying to change this by management increasing engagement will simply not work.
Carol 7
Down by the Water- The Drums
Lesson 8
Listen more.
Once I get started in conversations I think I talk too much. Something I have learnt this year is to listen more, listen to what people are saying and find out why they are saying it. Sharing time and thoughts with friends is such a precious gift but sometimes people just need to talk and not have answers or opinions given, they just need space to express themselves. I have learnt to listen more. I've heard some lovely things.
Carol 8
The Mermaid parade- Phosphorescent
Lesson 9
You can do more than you think you can.
I recently took part in a long distance cycle event where as a group we set out to "cycle" on turbo trainers a significcant distance over a 24 hour period. Our initial goal was at a level few of us thought we could achieve over a short period let alone sustained over a much longer period. We surpassed our target by 50%. The human spirit and drive and camaraderie and enthusiasm are amazing untapped resources and if we are constrained by what we think we might manage we will miss out on amazing things we could manage. You really can do more than you think you can.
Carol 9
Doubles – Amy Bezunartea
Thanks for passing by. I'd love to hear any comments on anything you think about what you have found. I hope 2011 brings you happiness and excitement, peace and challenges, but most of all love.
ffolliet
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